Relationships with others are an essential part of life. They help to draw information out of you that helps you both to understand yourselves better.
Love relationships are a special gift. The opportunity to be intimate and vulnerable in a way that you will experience with no other as each relationship is unique. Whilst intimate your energies are intertwined. What you share is therefore unrepeatable with anyone else. Both your energies are individual and unique. Your experiences in life your own - Sharing this through body, mind and spirit is an honour to each other. A window of time that only happens in that moment.
This means that not all love relationships are meant to last. Some are simply to help each other move past difficult periods in your life. Others are to show you aspects of yourself that you have failed to see. Changes you may have been putting off but realise could jeopardise your future with another if you do not.
There are many lonely people in this world both in relationships and not. Loneliness is the result of not connecting to love within the self. Expecting love to come from another. Hoping that by being with them your happiness will last always. These expectations are heavy on the heart and in the end will cause you hurt. Loving yourself and others unconditionally will free you from these feelings and instead teach you to have the courage to always be yourself no matter who you are with.
When was the last time you simply allowed yourself to sit and listen to your heart? To feel the love you hold inside and to simply just be. When in this state of being you are at your purest in mind body and spirit. This allows pure thoughts and feelings to surface. These feelings and thoughts can guide you when drawing you close to the perfect partner for you at this time.
Being happy with you and your own company is key to being happy with another. It allows each of you the freedom to be yourselves and for you to enjoy each other for that which you are.
Your perfect partner is the person that fits your life now. What they bring will enhance what you need which sometimes can cause disruption and difficult decisions to be made. As you come together the flow of life will show you whether it is a long term match or something simply for the moment. If long term your love for each other will simply grow as you appreciate one another and learn to simply BE present in each other’s presence.
I see so many unhappy relationships where people hold onto situations because they feel they ought, despite knowing their own unhappiness. Sometimes this unhappiness is their own thoughts and feelings destroying what could be. Other times it is their need to stay in something despite the relationship not offering them anything fulfilling for themselves. Even allowing negative behaviour towards them in fear of what may be if they were to leave.
Valuing and loving you will help you to release your attachment to the need of a relationship. It will give you the strength and courage to do what is right for you and your family. It will help you to invite loving supportive and harmonious relationships into your life.
I am here to help anyone who is facing big decisions to make changes in their lives. I can help steer you towards your own values and desires so that you can become more aware of whether new people you invite into your life are a suitable match for you.
Trust in the signs that come and in you and enjoy the relationships that unfold.
With love
Quan Yin